When was the last time you allowed yourself to rest with others?
In Spanish we have a word for the time after meals: la sobremesa (“after the table”) This is a time to hang out together, without agenda, that is part of many cultures.
During this period, energy drops and we engage in collective rest. After lunch, some people may doze off (siesta 😴) while others will have a relaxed conversation in lower tones. Even children tend to co-regulate at this time, playing quietly for a while. This ‘slow living’ practice can also happen in the evening – minus the nap!
Here’s what I’ve noticed: something subtle but powerful happens in that state ✨ We allow ourselves to be seen as people, not only as productive workers. We have more honest and vulnerable conversations – probably because the mood is slow and relaxed, and because our bodies are reclined and supported (somatically reinforcing the experience of being held). We listen more than respond, we reflect, we can’t be bothered getting into an argument…
I believe these ‘lingering environments’ open our mind to complexity, and strengthen the felt sense of being connected to others 🤝 I also believe they have been part of shared living since the beginning of times (when we were all part of a tribe).
I’ll be bringing that experience of collective rest to the Connection Playground next month, as part of our connection practices.
Will you give yourself permission to rest with others? ✅
Photo: me enjoying a bit of sobremesa time with my Spanish friends in Scotland.
